21st Century Parenting Skills- Marvelous Moms

 Hi Everyone…

Today, we are going to talk about Moms….All mothers are feeling guilty for one or another reason in her entire life of motherhood. Our society, family blames mother for whether child is not behaving well or failed in examinations or scored lower grades or for any other reason.
Dear Mommies, Here we need to learn something very important for our child’s development and progress.

How Home environment & Our Behavior are responsible:
 Home environment plays a major role in child’s development.

1.   start yelling at our children at the top of our voices.

2.    compare our children with the other children – sometimes someone among relatives, friends, neighbors or some random top scoring students.

3.    This tends to mentally weaken such children and they feel left alone. It makes child feel he/she is not  worth being our child, and sometimes this breaks him/her emotionally weak.

4.    They curse themselves for not being a good, and we, moms and dads start blaming each other.

5.    The child, who is already upset with low marks, is now mentally disturbed and has lost confidence. Most of the time this is the main causes of depression in the children.

6.    Month of March-April is tough for most of working moms, deadlines, targets, appraisals…. And tough for children too as they have their exams during this time of periods, revisions, doubts solving, teacher's pressure, and to meet our expectations…

Reasons for failing in exams or less marks can be plenty but need of the hour is to solve the problem by figuring out how we could deal with our children in this issue.

If you are a working mom, then you have more challenges to face, however if below pointers are followed, one can plan better.

Believe that You're the Best Mom and Don't compare yourself with other moms. and then,

·         Calm yourself: For a moment, you might seem like the most frustrated human on earth but relax, take a deep breath and just be silent and patient. Your scolding / yelling will only make the situation worse.

·         Stay Positive and analyze the report card : Sit with the child and go through the report card patiently. Before considering the negatives, point out the good points where they did well and appreciate it. Figure out the areas of improvement. It may not tell the entire story, but at least you can figure out his or her interest levels in the subjects.

·         Talk to Child’s teacher: A teacher can tell us in details where our child is lacking, which are the improvement area, which subject, Which chapter and topic we should revise with our child. When we, as a mom, shall understand the areas of improvement, for better study plan and execute.

·         Plan wisely for next exam: Come up with a new strategy of learning or road map and change their way of study. Get periodic updates on the same. Help them in any possible way we can. We should teach the child, how to score maximum marks from objective questions, and time management too. DO NOT create any hype for the examination.

·         Motivate The Child: If we punish the child today, tomorrow he/she will start hiding their results and stop sharing a lot of things with us. Instead of discussing and cursing the child, work on the solutions to get better results. Motivate the child to be the best version of him/her.

·         Think out of the box: Making them mainstream isn’t a great thing, instead, give them the freedom to think and do out of the box and surely they can do wonders! Of course, Engineers are Doctors are most of the parents dream even now, but not to forget there are plenty of dreams in a child’s mind. Your child would still become good doctor or an engineer if you wished to, but he could be the best  ” _______”.

If you still think marks or degree will fetch you success:

• v  Mark Zuckerberg (dropped out) founded FACEBOOK first and then gets his honorary degree after 12 years.
• v  Founder Colonel Sanders was aged 60+ when he found KFC.
• v  Sachin Tendulkar was high school dropout.
• v  Albert Einstein had speech issue till the age of 9. He seldom spoke.
• v  Virat Kohli  has studied till 11th class

Hence, it’s totally fine to screw up your 10th or 12th or even Degree marks. The world doesn’t end by providing good colleges or getting recruited through CAMPUS placements. Practical knowledge matters a lot; e.g. child scored distinction in Electronic engineering but can’t figure out why the TV isn’t working properly.

Nowadays, our strategies to deal with children scoring low marks fail because children today are more knowledgeable / addicted about latest trends / technologies and parents tend to feel degraded or outdated. This could be a boon or a distraction for them; this is where we need to align our children towards their betterment. Their knowledge on trending areas and our experiences in life along with strategies to deal with children scoring low marks mentioned above can provide perfect inputs needed for the child’s growth.

Your child’s poor result or grades can’t decide that you’re a failed parent. 

Remember, No Mom is a failed MOM…every MOM is a WOW MOM…!!!

It's okay to have fun with friends, chill out, to party and to be a working mom, You're the Energy and You can Do it...You're a WOW MOM...

 Apply these strategies to deal with children scoring low marks and let me know your views on the recipe for Happy Parenting in comment box. Also, if you have other suggestions, comment below.

Happy Parenting..!!